Dear Olivia,


I am a single mom of a nine month old and ready to get laid again. However, OKCupid’s staff robot persists in recommending illiterate trolls to me and telling me we are excellent matches. WTF? Does my age (mid-thirties) and parent status throw the stats off so that I am now only considered viable for divorced alcoholics? Olivia, I am well-educated, kind, voluptuous, adventurous, and excellent in bed. Why have I been consigned to the internet dating ghetto? Should I lie on my profile and fulfill the desperate cougar stereotype? Disavow my son? But we both know hookups that begin in a web of lies come to no good. My baby keeps me from socializing most of the time, so I don’t meet a lot of new people. What would you recommend?


Sincerely,

Unless New Linkups Apply I’ll Desiccate

Dear Olivia,

I have a wonderful partner who is also a wonderful lover, but his style of lovin’ doesn’t always mesh well with what gets me off. He really wants to know what does it for me, and I do know exactly what really gets me going both in advance and in the moment, but if he asks while things are already hot and heavy I totally freeze up – it’s like the instant things heat up the part of my brain that handles all this talking business totally shuts down. Obviously the solution is to communicate these things to him in advance – or even better, as part of foreplay! – but when I try this I feel awkward and unsexy at best and demanding at worst. Got any tips for how to channel my inner sex goddess as I open the lines of communication?

Best,
Feeling Gagged and Not in a Sexy Way

Dear Olivia,

How do you make a one-night stand into a two-night stand without seeming desperate, horny, or easy?

Sincerely,
Charlie

Dear Olivia,

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for a month now, and we’ve had sex a few times. The sex is good, but pretty vanilla, and I’d like to try some things that could be considered kinky, or fetishistic. On the one hand, I really like her and don’t want to scare her off early in the relationship with my kinks, but at the same time, I don’t want her to feel like I’m springing this on her after we’ve already established what we both like. How do I ask her and when?

Best,
Kinky IN Kentucky

I’m definitely entering a new phase of my sexuality. I’ve always been in monogamous relationships in the past. I’ve realized as I’m getting older I have sexual fantasies that I’d like to fulfill, and it isn’t gonna happen in a monogamous relationship.

I have a problems with my girlfriend. We just see each other from time to time and now we are just friends. I think if I can get her to some sensual meeting she could be mine again. Any thoughts of how can I get her to that meeting? I need your opinion.

Please tell me how to convince my girlfriend to give me a blowjob because she thinks that it’s nasty but I really want her to give me a blowjob… I really want a blowjob… And Camille, please tell me how to contact you. I wanna meet you and want a blowjob from you.

Hi Camille,

I’m 25, and bi-curious, in the midwest.

My wife left late last year, and took the dog. I got a new dog, that I love very much. (Not that way.) It took a while, because the way that the relationship ended, but I eventually got lonely in ways that the dog can’t fill (going shopping, out to eat, drinking, etc) and tried to find new friends or develop friends to fill that role, but I’m extremely shy. So, I turned to the internet, Craigslist, specifically, and stumbled upon someone. 

About 9 months ago after my wife and I were married she stumbled upon my stash of porn on our computer. This disturbed her quite a bit and she was mostly mad because she felt it was cheating. I did not disagree with her I just stopped cold for a bit, but a guy sometimes needs to blow one off so I do it once in a while, but nothing like I ever did in the past. Fast forward to today.

My question is regarding oral sex, specifically on my girlfriend. We have fun playing (she gives great BJs), but when she wants me to go down on her, I can’t do it. I’ve always fantasized about eating a girl out, but when I try on her, I can’t because her pussy just has a bad taste. I’ve licked her clit, which she enjoys, but she wants me to full on stick my tongue in her pussy. Any advice Camille? I like the idea of eating her out, but her pussy just doesn’t taste good.

Q: What’s the best way to move from going down on a girl to rimming her? Ask first (awkward) or just go for it (really awkward if she’s really not into it.) I love rimming and have had several positive responses to it, but have also had one girl freak out – and I can’t think of a polite way to bring up in conversation before making out to ask if rimming would be cool or not, and while you are eating her out it just seems weird to stop and ask questions.

Hello and welcome to the first installment of Ask Camille.  I’m the performer and webmaster of The Art of Blowjob and Slow Motion Blowjob, I have my own blog and I’ve even been guest editor here at Fleshbot.  When I’m not making or talking about beautiful porn, I end up being asked a lot of questions.  I guess when you’re an open person, that tends to happen.  I’ve been lucky enough to get the opportunity to bring my advice on different sexual and relationship topics every week here on Fleshbot. 

Remember how awesome it was when Camille Crimson gave sex advice to all of us? Well, good news: she’s back to make that column a regular Fleshbot feature!

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